It’s taken less than two years for us to realize we are serious trouble with this little guy. I say that in jest, but we may not always be laughing. With Hannah we’ve noticed that she’s a rule follower almost to a T. Whenever she does something she knows is wrong, or is even borderline, she does it meekly. When she says something she knows is wrong or just might be something she shouldn’t say, she whispers it. She gets hysterical and loses her mind when she’s in timeout because she (a) hates isolation, but (b) hates even more than we might be mad at her. And she’s literally never not had a “green” day at her daycare/preschool. I’m not bragging, I’m fairly certain that’s not my doing – her mom was and is a pretty strict rule follower herself.
Me? I often treat rules, instructions, directions, etc. as suggestions, another person’s opinion, really. Not always, of course, and definitely not maliciously. While I typically can’t stand arrogance in others, I’m self-aware enough to know that I can sometimes walk the thin line between rebelliousness and arrogance myself, and hopefully the humility instilled in me by my parents and other mentors kicks in most of the time and I check myself. Not always, though, I’m sure. Which leads me to young Logan.
Logey will be 2 in March. And it’s easy to see he’s going to be a limit-pusher. When Hannah was upright and mobile we baby-proofed. Safety-locked cabinets, removed wobbly decorations, child-proofed door handles/knobs, etc. But for the most part, she rarely disturbed anything she wasn’t supposed to, and true to her revealing nature, most of the time she listened when we told her no. Not Logan.
Anyone with a second child can probably admit it’s easy to get lackadaisical. The initial nervousness of trying to bubble wrap your kid is gone. Of course we’re still pretty protective and responsible, I like to think, but we didn’t go to the extremes that we did with Hannah. Why would we? Most of what we did ended up being unnecessary. Well…it’s all now necessary.
I mentioned in my last post that no elevated object is safe. No cabinet or door is ignored. He still spent the majority the past few months opening and slamming every door he could – whether it was a kitchen cupboard or a bedroom or closet or front or back or bathroom door. Constantly. Not just at our house, at others, too. And anytime he finds something somewhat interesting or new inside a cabinet he’s getting it out.
I think the obsession with doors/cabinets has slowed down, but what’s picked up is his temper. Especially when you tell him no (he just keeps doing it), then physically prevent him from doing what he wants to do. Whether that’s stopping him from climbing, pulling things off the shelves or out of drawers, confiscating a phone or remote, changing his diaper when he doesn’t want you to, or not reading a book or singing a song “correctly” – if it’s not going his way he throws a nice little shit-fit. It can be entertaining and we have some good stories to tell when he gets older, but it certainly causes some frustrations.
Logan has been a little slower to talk than his big sis was. We’re told that’s pretty normal and
we’re I’m not too concerned. He has a couple dozen words down by now I think, and he loves making animal noises (his elephant imitation is cutest thing in the history of almost 2 year olds, I swear). But his jibberish vocabulary is quite extensive, and has been for awhile. He likes pointing things out and having you name them, but he’s not big on naming them himself. He does like imitating noises and faces, which can be pretty funny. And his smile and laugh are pretty damn infectious. I said this with Hannah and I’ll say it again, not too many things in the world make me happier than the laughter of my children and wife.
Which leads me to a funny observation Sam made tonight. We watched like 10 minutes of a Full House rerun and it was pretty funny. It was an episode where Uncles Joey and Jessie were telling stories about how they learned how to help take care of baby Michelle. I can’t remember who all was in the scene, but she said “they” (I believe she meant Danny/Jesse/Joey) reminded her of me.
And the more I watched the more I made the connection that I’m a combination of the three of them – corny like Joey, slightly rebellious like Jesse, and deeply loving like Danny. Go watch some episodes if I’ve lost you. It kind of makes sense, because I remember watching a lot of Full House as a youngster and while I was and still am super close to my dad, who is an incredibly loving and smart man, we didn’t live with him, so I probably was pretty impressionable when it came to father-figures on TV and in movies. I say that not to get too deep into my family dynamic, but just because it’s kind of funny to think about and I recognized immediately what Sam observed. I also watched a lot of Who’s the Boss, Growing Pains, and Family Matters (TGIF!) growing up, so that could also explain my (often unrealistic, occasionally just absurd) optimistic outlook.
Sorry, back to Logan, it’s his blog right!
Here’s something awesome. He’s never really paid much attention to the TV unless there’s lively music (we have Pandora or Music Choice on the TV often) or, more recently, sports. Especially basketball and football, and hopefully baseball this spring. This is fantastic. Hannah has never really been too into watching sports, she’d rather watch movies or shows or draw or color or read or just play. But Logan, while he does enjoy playing with his toys or just getting into stuff he shouldn’t, and really loves books, will stop in his tracks and completely focus in on a game on the TV. Which, again I say, is awesome – if you know my brother, dad, and me then you know we’re sports nuts and love going to games together.
Needless to say, if he does develop an interest in sports I’m beyond excited to go to games with this little guy, coach his teams, watch him play, and practice in the backyard. Same goes with Hannah, of course. This parenting thing is quite a ride, I just have to remind myself occasionally to put down my phone, let Jesus take the wheel, and enjoy it in real-time!